Reasearch-Based Disqualifiers

What follows are the references for the 19 research-based disqualifiers listed and briefly described on pages 106-107 of The Compatibility Code.  The references are often articles from academic journals which would be difficult to find and interpret for someone who is not deeply steeped in academia.  Other references are books designed for the general public.  For these references the material is very findable (check out Amazon.com or Amazon.ca) and quite understandable.  If you have difficulty with any of our references, you might google the listed quality and seek to find some valid source of information.

1. Hostility
Smith, T. W., & Gallo, L. C. (1999). Hostility and cardiovascular reactivity during marital interaction. Psychosomatic Medicine, 61, 436-445.

2. Bitterness
Guerin, P. J. (1987). The evaluation and treatment of marital conflict. New York: Basic Books.

3. Selfishness
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

4. Rigid or uncompromising
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

5. Tactless
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

6. Egotistical
Luckey, E. B. (1964). Marital satisfaction and personality correlates of spouse. Journal of Marriage and the Family, 26, 217-220.

7. Controlling
Haley, J. (1976). Problem-solving therapy. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass.

8. Dishonesty
Spitzer, R. L., Gibbon, M., Skodol, A. E., Williams, J. B., & First, M. B. (2005). DSM-IV Casebook. Washington, DC:  American Psychiatric Press.

9. Cruelty and abuse
James, R. K. (2005). Crisis intervention strategies. Belmont, CA: Brooks/Cole.

10. Poor communication skills
Gottman, J. M. (2001). The relationship cure: A five-step guide for building connections with family, friends, and lovers.  New York: Three Rivers Press.

11. Manipulative
Popcak, G. (2002). The exceptional seven percent. New York: Citadel.

12. Reactive thinker
Bowen, M. (1976). Principles and techniques of multiple family therapy. In P. J. Guerin (Ed.), Family therapy: Theory  and practice. New York: Gardner Press.

13. Emotionally unstable
Spitzer, R. L., Gibbon, M., Skodol, A. E., Williams, J. B., & First, M. B. (2005). DSM-IV Casebook. Washington, DC:  American Psychiatric Press.

14. Overly sensitive
Popcak, G. (2002). The exceptional seven percent. New York: Citadel.

15. Excessive dependency
Hazen, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process.Journal of Personality and  Social Psychology, 52, 511-524.

16. Severe psychological disorders
Spitzer, R. L., Gibbon, M., Skodol, A. E., Williams, J. B., & First, M. B. (2005). DSM-IV Casebook. Washington, DC:  American Psychiatric Press.

17. Uncontrolled anger
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

18. Habitually critical
Hooley, J. M., & Teasdale, J. D. (1989). Predictors of relapse in uni-polar depressives: expressed emotion, marital distress  and perceived criticism. Journal of Abnormal Psychology, 98(3), 229-235.

19. Obsessive or compulsive behavior
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

Chapter 8 Resources

Prescripts for Relationship Health

  1. Disqualifiers
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Tools and Worksheets

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